For some, the word no can be hard to implement, especially if they get pushback from those in their lives. Some people may be made to feel guilty for their decision, thus causing them to change their mind out of obligation. Take a second to think about what can happen in this instance, if it becomes a regular occurrence. Resentment comes to my mind. The reasoning is because if you feel forced into doing things that you don’t want to do, and you know the other person is aware, then anger can set inside of you. And, instead of saying something and being honest with your feelings, you shove them down. What I tell my clients, is what goes down must come up eventually.
Saying no is not being mean. Saying no is being considerate of yourself and feelings. It is all about intent behind the no. Check in with yourself, as you know your motives. Below are some resources to aid in the process of boundary setting by saying no, when warranted.
Boundaries, It Is Time To Say No When You Need To
4 Ways To Set And Keep Boundaries
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life: Cloud, Henry, Townsend
The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships
The Better Boundaries Workbook: A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships
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